02/03: The Folly Man
Strong. Capable. Dependable. Confident. Words; descriptive in nature; often used to describe men. Accurate for some. Cloak of pretence for others. All men wear these words, but whom do they fit?
The test: The one you care about, the love of your life who has given you so much, from whom you have taken, is ill—some regard pregnancy as an illness.
What do you do during this time? Is there obligation?
What to do?
Some will do whatever they can to minimize the stress, discomfort and burden of life for the one they love. They wish to nurture and give to the one who has given them so much in the hope they will heal, or at least suffer less, unconcerned for their own well-being due to their innate belief they will persevere. Others will find and acquire another to fulfill the needs their partner can no longer “properly” satisfy, detaching themselves from the one they “love”. This is the difference between the aware and the afraid.
Those who are aware are able to care for themselves, not dependent on the one they love. It is an honest relationship where the passion for another is not based on need. The fearful need the one they “love”. The illness of the one they “love” is perceived as abandonment and they lack the capacity to deal with this within their own depth. They must find another who will provide services without the inconvenience of discomfort. (These men will make sure they are “caught” to bring about the confrontation that leads to their release.)
Obligation?
Yes, we do have an obligation to the one we love. If it is our partner and we have taken their love, energy and passion, we are obligated to do the same. When you do this for someone you love, someone who has given unconditionally, it does not feel like obligation. Men will go to the depths of hell for one they love. Men who feel obligated are not with someone they love, or, more likely, are frightened men who need the comfort of stability and mothering to endure another day. The obligation of the afraid is to survive another day in the cloak of man.
Difference?
Men are men. We do not care about those who wish to cloak themselves in deceit. We know who they are and what they represent. We know and so do the ones they “love”. People are who they are, and before they really change they will try to convince you they have changed—real change is too difficult.
That being said, it is important to note that the quiet hero is the man who has the strength to love and give without expectation. It is only when one gives without expectation that one truly gives. Anything else is negotiation.
Do you need the test? No, you know who you are.
See men for what they are, who they are. A good man is a good man and does not need to prove anything. He proves who he is through his consistent and predictable actions. These samely predictable actions are demonstrated by those who are less than. If you believe they are more it is because you want to believe, and we all want to believe in something. Believe in the man who is strong, capable, dependable and confident because that is who he is, not because you “know” that is who he can become. (We are who we are, not who we will be.)
This is a message that needs to be conveyed to the feminine, as men know who is putting on airs. Then again, truth be told, women also know, even when they choose to believe otherwise. We all know, even when we choose to believe.
Wear the cloak, you still are who you are.
The test: The one you care about, the love of your life who has given you so much, from whom you have taken, is ill—some regard pregnancy as an illness.
What do you do during this time? Is there obligation?
What to do?
Some will do whatever they can to minimize the stress, discomfort and burden of life for the one they love. They wish to nurture and give to the one who has given them so much in the hope they will heal, or at least suffer less, unconcerned for their own well-being due to their innate belief they will persevere. Others will find and acquire another to fulfill the needs their partner can no longer “properly” satisfy, detaching themselves from the one they “love”. This is the difference between the aware and the afraid.
Those who are aware are able to care for themselves, not dependent on the one they love. It is an honest relationship where the passion for another is not based on need. The fearful need the one they “love”. The illness of the one they “love” is perceived as abandonment and they lack the capacity to deal with this within their own depth. They must find another who will provide services without the inconvenience of discomfort. (These men will make sure they are “caught” to bring about the confrontation that leads to their release.)
Obligation?
Yes, we do have an obligation to the one we love. If it is our partner and we have taken their love, energy and passion, we are obligated to do the same. When you do this for someone you love, someone who has given unconditionally, it does not feel like obligation. Men will go to the depths of hell for one they love. Men who feel obligated are not with someone they love, or, more likely, are frightened men who need the comfort of stability and mothering to endure another day. The obligation of the afraid is to survive another day in the cloak of man.
Difference?
Men are men. We do not care about those who wish to cloak themselves in deceit. We know who they are and what they represent. We know and so do the ones they “love”. People are who they are, and before they really change they will try to convince you they have changed—real change is too difficult.
That being said, it is important to note that the quiet hero is the man who has the strength to love and give without expectation. It is only when one gives without expectation that one truly gives. Anything else is negotiation.
Do you need the test? No, you know who you are.
See men for what they are, who they are. A good man is a good man and does not need to prove anything. He proves who he is through his consistent and predictable actions. These samely predictable actions are demonstrated by those who are less than. If you believe they are more it is because you want to believe, and we all want to believe in something. Believe in the man who is strong, capable, dependable and confident because that is who he is, not because you “know” that is who he can become. (We are who we are, not who we will be.)
This is a message that needs to be conveyed to the feminine, as men know who is putting on airs. Then again, truth be told, women also know, even when they choose to believe otherwise. We all know, even when we choose to believe.
Wear the cloak, you still are who you are.
